Msg # 7242 Date: 02 May 94 07:14:00 From: Bob Johnstone To: Michael Pilon Subj: WORRIERS ____________________________________________________________________________ > Hi Ola, I read a good book some time ago whose title I forget but the > jist of the theory was that we use only 2-3% of our mind consiously. This is not a theory, but proven fact. Einstien failed in math year after year in school, he learned how to use self-hypnosis, and look at what happened with his life. I learned to use it when I was six. In spite of the fact that I was mentally, physically, and sexually abused, hated school and refused to do any homework after I was in the sixth grade, walked out of school when I was 15 and refused to go back, I finally learned to use it well enough to totally turn my life around. My best friends wound up in the Mass State Prison, and when I was seventeen, I heard my uncle predict to my sister that I would be there with them before I was 21...... Then I went into the army, wound up doing two tours of combat duty in Korea, extending the second one by six months, came back wounded and suffering from Post Traumatic Stress. But, while I was in the service, I went back to school nights and got my H.S. diploma, and two years of college credits, studying more for my own interests than any desire to get a degree. As I could not afford much for entertainment, was just taking courses which were interesting to me. But my problems from childhood and Korea, ruined my marriage to a woman I had known and loved for 15 years before we got married. Constant fighting and bickering daily every day for nine years. She finally left me, taking the children and _disappeared_ with another man, never to be found again. She does not even contact her mother, but that is another long story. Unlike a lot of fathers, I really loved my children and personally took a lot of care of them. For over one year when my wife was in a hospital, I had sole car of them, doing all the washing, ironing, cleaning, cooking, etc. and all my relatives felt I did a better job than she had ever done. But when she took the children away from me, it was the straw that broke the camels back, three months later I took an overdose of hundreds of tranquilizers that I stole from the hospital where I worked. A friend saw me with my light on at three am, and knowing how depressed I was stopped to ask me to go for coffee, and found me unconscious on the floor, called the paramedics, and I spent months in a locked ward in the hospital to keep me from finishing the job. Up until this time, I had been an entertainer, a Professional Stage Hypnotist. While sitting in the hospital for months, I used hypnosis and fantasized that I was reliving the good parts of my life. Gradually I began to get better, and while in the hospital decided to go back to school, and study psychology to find a better way of helping others. For I began to realize that what they were doing in the hospital, was doing _nothing_ for me except to keep me alive, give me anti-depressents which I took for the next eight years. When I got out of the hospital I decided to go to school in ernest and get a degree in Psychology.... So, I am proof that even a H.S. dropout can get a Ph.D. [grin] When you use self-hypnosis, with guidence from others, you can do anything. Many had been in the hospital for depression for many years, but I began getting better. Later when I completed my studies and was working with clients, my MAJOR goal was to develop EFFECTIVE methods of eliminating depression, without using drugs. For years I used what I learned in school to develop very effective but very comples methods to eliminate depression. I would even work at no charge with anyone who had depression, so police officers, nurses, and local doctors sent clients to me who could not afford to pay or did not have insurance and I had a LOT of experience helping those with depression. BUT, IT TOOK TOO LONG, I was always afraid that using standard teachings, that clients would commit suicide BEFORE I could ever help them enough to keep them alive. There just _had_ to be better or faster ways, even using hypnosis with all my clients I did not feel was fast enough. In a desperate attempt to keep one lady alive, who had been suicidal for over sixteen years, had made many almost successful attempts (only stopped because others found her and dragged her into the hospital).... I came up with the idea of telling her, "IF you will promise me that you will come in for sessions daily, for 12 weeks, and you STILL feel depressed, and still want to die, I will keep you company or even hold you while you die." For at that time, it was taking me 12 weeks at two sessions per day to help people get rid of all their depression by locating all the causes and discharging the emotions using Neuro Linguistics. I believed if I worked with her DAILY, there was no way I would fail to help her in 12 weeks, regardless of what the cause of her depression might be. She agreed, I made her promise if she felt depressed and was thinking of suicide, that she would _always_ call me, no matter what time it was even 3 am. Then , because I gave her my pager no and my home number, many times she did call. Once it was at 2:15, I got up and met her in a local restaurant and we stayed up all night talking. She later said, "In three months I got more help for my depression than in all the 16 years of seeing therapists." Now, I had PROVEN what I had long believed, that CONCENTRATING the sessions into less time, got better results. If I had worked with her once a week, for the same number of sessions, she might not be alive today. Also, I came to realize that by doing so she really finally believed SOMEONE REALLY CARED ABOUT HER..... That kept her motivated to keep coming for the sessions regardless of HOW depressed she felt, calling me instead of taking action when she was depressed. Then I knew that I had to TEACH the client to use hypnosis themselves, to do for themselves what I had been doing for them. For ONLY if a client could do it, could they make the same kind of progress that she made by me seeing her daily. As at the time professionals felt that the individual could not learn enough to help themselves with hypnosis, except in using it to improve memory, study habits etc, I had to find a simplified way of changing emotions which was very effective, and the individual could use. The result after years of trying many different things, was what I now call "Conflict Resolution" which is an expanded series of mental exercises similar to what I teach here. It is much too complex to teach it all, so I put it on tape so the individual does not have to "remember" all the details, but can just listen to the tapes. IT WORKS, it can get rid of long term depression, since it has been more refined over the years, it works FASTER than ever before. That does not mean that a person will not need therapy if clinically depressed, but that by listening to the tapes, then can SPEED UP the healing process or make changes recommended by their therapist _much_easier_ than they have ever believed. The body does not control the mind, the mind controls the body. No matter HOW you feel physically because of anger, fear, guilt, frustration, resentment, jealousy, et al. No matter how much emotional pain you might be in, you can feel better, much faster, even if you suffer from Post Traumatic Stress..... By learning to help yourself, you can dramaticly reduce the amount of time necessary to improve the quality of your life with your therapist. It is MUCH EASIER to change feelings or emotions than we have ever been allowed to believe. There is no such thing as a "stupid" question, even though at times we get "stupid answers" to questions. If you have any questions, just ask. Dr Bob --- FLAME v1.0 * Origin: For PTSD or Emotions & Physical HELP 714-525-1706 (1:10/25) PATH: 10/25 103/501 121 3615/50 138/103 1 35